At St Mary’s we believe that everyone has the right to feel safe, valued and respected. Your children are precious to us and we want to make sure that everyone comes to school to learn and be their best. In the newsletter this term we have been discussing what bullying is and strategies for you to discuss with your child to manage bullying if it is occurring. Here are some of those strategies in more detail:
Fogging - best used when being teased or put down
“Fogging” involves the student who is the target of the bullying behaviour, responding to teasing with neutral statements or by indicating they don’t care, thus not inflaming the situation. The bully may become so bored they will leave them alone. The student being targeted can repeat these messages whilst walking to safety, near friends or a teacher, e.g. “I don’t care” or “go away, leave me alone.”
Robotic Voice - best used when being harassed
“Robotic Voice/Talk” involves the student who is the target of the bullying speaking like a robot, with the tone of voice and the words remaining unchanged. They keep repeating themselves, again walking away from the situation or bully as they speak. e.g. “I don’t care” repeated over and over in a neutral voice.
“I” statements – useful to show feelings towards bullies.
Students who use “I” statements may feel empowered because they have attempted to take control of the situation rather than walk away or call a teacher. The bully may begin to empathise with the student’s feelings or at least cease the behaviour because of the level of hurt involved. E.g. “I don’t care.”
‘EVERYBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO FEEL SAFE AT OUR SCHOOL’
Melissa Hotham - Religious Education Coordinator